Christmas 2008

Christmas Eve

Christmas Day

Christmas was loads of fun this year! The kids got a mountain of presents. Bryson surprised me with a beautiful diamond necklace. It was wonderful to spend the day with extended family and, of course, our children. I'm so grateful that we get to spend each December focused on the Savior's birth, life and Atonement.

President Hinckley expressed it perfectly: "Now, the next thing of which I am certain, and of which I bear witness, is the Atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ. Without it life is meaningless. It is the keystone in the arch of our existence. It affirms that we lived before we were born in mortality. Mortality is but a stepping-stone to a more glorious existence in the future. The sorrow of death is softened with the promise of the Resurrection. There would be no Christmas if there were no Easter."

Amen.

Girls basketball reunion

Last night I drove up to Park City for a little get together with some girls I played basketball with at Timpanogos high school. It was really fun to see everyone and catch up on each other's lives.

Sitting there with everyone, I started thinking that this group of ladies basically watched me grow up. I felt grateful for all of the people who knew me "back in the day" that have made allowances for the fact that a person changes a LOT over the course of 12 years (the first trip I went on with these girls was to North Carolina when I was 12!) and the inevitable trials that come with life's passage.

(I digress...)

Anyway, it was a very fun night. We took a "team picture" before I left. Playing basketball and being part of a team was so much fun! I have a lot of really good memories from that time. Even though I ended my career at Provo high, I'll always consider myself a T-wolf.

Thoughts and events from the Christmas season

Here's a little sample of what we've been up to the past few weeks.

This is our new house!!! Bryson has been working hard remodeling some of the interior.
View from kitchen of garage entry and family rm
View from family rm of kitchen and hallway to bedroomsHeather helping load the kiddos on our way to my family's ward Christmas party.

Me loading my handsome Hunter.

The three of us at the party. Bryson was working on our house so we were missing him.
Eleyna opening her first present on Dec. 23rd to celebrate the Prophet Joseph Smith's birthday.

Bryson helping Hunter open his gift. He got the Children's songbook on cd.
Eleyna playing with the wrapping paper afterwards. What a beautiful smile!

We are so excited about our new place and can't wait to move in--hopefully we'll be in shortly after New Year's. One thing I wanted to mention quickly is how grateful I have felt recently for all of the wonderful people who help me to take care of Hunter, but especially for his therapists from Kids on the Move. My physical and occupational therapists are amazing guys. They truly care about Hunter and all of the children they work with everyday. I know that the Savior has a special love for those precious spirits who struggle with imperfect bodies. I think He, along with me, cries tears of joy when He sees His other children working so hard to help improve the lives of little kids who cannot help themselves. I am so grateful to be able to associate with individuals on a regular basis who understand what it means to be a parent of a child with a disability--it helps me to not feel quite so alone.

Hope you all have a very Merry Christmas!

Surprisingly delightful!

Given my low expectations going in (due to the fact that I knew there was NO way the movie could do the book justice) I was unexpectedly delighted with Twilight! I really felt like the core of the story was preserved in spite of the few things I disliked (i.e. the scene in Biology when Edward smells Bella for the first time, Alice's character, the running scenes--to name a few). I was happy to read on Stephenie Meyer's website that Summit Entertainment is planning on making New Moon into a film as well.

A big thanks to my bff--Bryson--for going to see it with me, and not making fun of it. I think we were the oldest people in the audience!

Some thoughts that have been "weighing" me down

Bryson got me An Inconvenient Book by Glenn Beck for my birthday. The other day I was reading the chapter on body image and I haven't been able to stop thinking about what I read.

FACTS from the book:

• The average American model is 5'11" and 120 lbs.
• The average American woman is 5'4" and 163 lbs--seven inches shorter and 43 pounds heavier than the cover girls!!!
• A tabloid publisher named Louisa Hatfield told Australia's newspaper The Age in 2006: "Women are obsessed with body image. They think about their body image more than they think about their children. They think about it even more than men think about sex--which is about a million times a day, isn't it?"
• Cosmetic surgery is a $15 billion industry in America.

That last fact is true because the way God designed our bodies isn't "in" anymore. I think the reason this hit me so hard is because I have a DAUGHTER now. All of the sudden I'm worried about how to raise my precious little girl to believe she is a valued, beautiful child of Heavenly Father. How can I make her believe that if she hears me, her mother, constantly making negative comments about my own body? Will she believe me if she sees me spending too much time and money chasing an impossible perfection? I feel like if I'm not very careful I'll turn around one day and find the result of the "celebrity-obsessed, self-indulgent culture" we live in smiling up at me--my very own "prostitot".

The reason this got to me so much is because I am guilty of being a little too obsessed with my appearance. I need to make some changes.

Glenn really sums up what I'm trying to say:

"As parents, we need to start leading by example. Yes, the magazines, the ads, the plastic surgery--it's all part of the problem, but each time you try to squeeze your fat fanny into a pair of size four True Religion jeans, your daughters learn to pray at the same alter."

DISCLAIMER:

I love to play sports and exercise! I feel like I eat pretty healthy, but I do enjoy a few sweets and other "fats" in moderation. I absolutely believe that I owe it to my husband to do what I can to stay healthy and attractive for the benefit of our relationship. I intend on trying to instill all of the above in my children. Everything that I said in the first half of this post is not because I feel like "letting yourself go" is an acceptable option either. I just don't think that if you aren't a certain body type or if you experience physical changes due to pregnancy, or merely the process of aging, that the result should be loss of self-esteem.

A good friend of mine just announced that she is pregnant with her seventh child. (She takes great care of her body--she ran a marathon this past summer--and I think she looks awesome.) I want to share something that she wrote in conjunction with that exciting announcement on her blog.

"In this month for GRATITUDE, I am extremely grateful for another healthy girl. I am also grateful for my big, strong body. There have been many years when my perception of my body has been a trial to me. But this big, strong body has allowed me to carry 7 children, and for that I am eternally grateful."

I guess, in conclusion, I hope Eleyna will be able to feel similarly in the years to come. That I can keep an eternal perspective on this issue, and everything else I face in life, is my hope for myself and my children.

Remember to VOTE tomorrow!

Who we vote for does matter.

Elder Neal A. Maxwell in a talk entitled "A More Detemined Discipleship" said:

"Make no mistake about it, brothers and sisters, in the months and years ahead, events are likely to require each member to decide whether or not he will follow the First Presidency. Members will find it more difficult to halt longer between two opinions.

Your discipleship may see the time when such religious convictions are discounted. M. J. Sobran also said, “A religious conviction is now a second-class conviction, expected to step deferentially to the back of the secular bus, and not to get uppity about it” (Human Life Review, Summer 1978, pp. 58–59).

This new irreligious imperialism seeks to disallow certain opinions simply because those opinions grow out of religious convictions. Resistance to abortion will be seen as primitive. Concern over the institution of the family will be viewed as untrendy and unenlightened.

In its mildest form, irreligion will merely be condescending toward those who hold to traditional Judeo-Christian values. In its more harsh forms, as is always the case with those whose dogmatism is blinding, the secular church will do what it can to reduce the influence of those who still worry over standards such as those in the Ten Commandments. It is always such an easy step from dogmatism to unfair play—especially so when the dogmatists believe themselves to be dealing with primitive people who do not know what is best for them—the secular bureaucrats’ burden, you see.

Jesus said that when the fig trees put forth their leaves, "summer is nigh" (Matt. 24:32). Thus warned that summer is upon us, let us not then complain of the heat!"

(This address was delivered at Brigham Young University on 10 October 1978.)

Thanks to my cousin Brittany for emailing me this.

Nobody says it quite like Elder Maxwell!!!

Eleyna and Uncle Joseph

Living in my parent's basement is fun because my brothers and sisters get to spend more time with my kids. My sister Deanna is a really good helper, particularly with the baby. Heather often takes time to say hi to Hunter and hold his hand. Ryan and Joseph are both great uncles. I love these pictures of Joseph with miss Eleyna.

SO cute!