Recently, I listened to an episode of "Converations" on The Mormon
Channel with Elder and Sister Bowen. You might remember his talk from
conference last year on the death of his little boy who swallowed the
chalk. In my own words, here's a brief summary of what he said as he
spoke about that experience in the interview.
Where
doubt and fear exist, faith can't exist. The adversary uses experiences
like losing a child to crush faith and embitter us. We need to remember
that everyone is fighting a hard battle and that some trials are more
visible than others, so be kind to everyone. The pain won't get better
right away, but it can become sweet as you turn to the Lord. The only
thing that's important in this life is our covenants, that's where the
peace comes. Remember that sometimes you just have to cry. Keep an
eternal perspective and remember that we have everything. There are
things more terrible than physical death. It has no sting because of the
Atonement of Christ.
This last part, however, is what really struck me. Elder Bowen said,
"Spiritual
death is what will bring the sting and that's what we have to protect
against. Satan would take the physical things that happen and try and
destroy testimony and destroy hope."
I know that
statement may seem elemental, but the profundity for me, in that moment,
was powerful. Such a simple truth and yet it can be one of the most
difficult things to remember in the midst of a trial that assaults our
physical senses. I think that as an intelligent, capable, strong, but
"natural" woman, I default to responding to difficulty with my physical
resources. Unfortunately, my own emotional, physical and mental
resources (a pittance in comparison to what God has to offer) are
quickly depleted in the face of intense trial. I begin to suffer
spiritually because invariably as I try-in vain-to do things on my own,
I'm turning away from the Savior. The harder I
try, the farther I
feel from God. I believe this is generally when, from the depths of
humility we turn back to Heavenly Father and physically and spiritually
surrender our load, or Satan delivers the fatal blow to hope and
testimony.
Final thought by Elder Wirthlin from his iconic conference talk, Come What May, and Love It.
"Sometimes the very moments that seem to overcome us with suffering are those that will ultimately suffer us to overcome."